Well, it’s official – we are moving to the Houston area. Actually Rick has been working there for nearly a year now, and it’s making more sense that I join him there permanently rather than have him drive home every weekend. I have been very resistant to moving again; during my previous marriage I moved many times to accommodate the ex’s career. When I arrived here about eight years ago I told myself I’d never again move for a man. Famous last words, right?
Nonetheless, after weighing the options, we decided to go for it. It’s kind of exciting to look for a house without needing to consider which school district. I’ve been searching out like-minded swingers and poly couples around my future hometown, trying to make some connections. So far I’ve chatted online with a few lovely married ladies looking for a gf to share some alone time with. The idea of having a gf just for me is very intriguing; but I have to admit it’s a little scary when I think about the potential drama that could ensue. But it’s exciting just the same.
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I am actually looking forward to getting back into the swing lifestyle. We’ve taken a self-imposed break due to the fact that when Rick is home, we have to prioritize our time carefully and over the months the swinging has taken a back seat to other activities. But with kids out of the house and the opportunities to make new friends, I’m excited about what the future holds. And for those who think casual sex is bad for your health, a recent study conducted by researchers from NYU and Cornell dispels the popular notion that casual hookups — defined as sexual activity outside the context of a romantic relationship — will leave you with low self-esteem and depression. The research, published in the journal Social Psychology and Personality Science, involved a group of NYU students who kept a weekly diary over the course of 12 weeks documenting any and all adult snuggles — and the effect those instances had on their overall well-being.
Sociosexually unrestricted students reported higher well-being after having casual sex compared to not having sex, the researchers found. Also, those who were sociosexually unrestricted reported lower stress and greater overall emotional health after casual sex. (This is … maybe not super surprising.)
Although past reports have shown that women are less likely than men to orgasm during casual sex, this particular study showed few overall differences between genders.
The study’s authors explained that “the effects of casual sex depend on the extent to which this behavior is congruent with one’s general personality tendencies.” So, in other words: if you want to have casual sex, you definitely should. If you do not want to have casual sex, you shouldn’t.