Recreational Sex and Aura

sexual chakra, energy



I am part of a secret swingers’ Facebook group. We post all kinds of material related to sex, swinging, health, and any other topic that crosses our minds.  A few days ago, I came across this post from a group (or page) called “The Mind Unleashed”. It reads as follows:

“Pay attention to whom you share your intimate energy with. Intimacy at this level intertwines your aural energy with the aural energy of the other person. These powerful connections, regardless of how insignificant you think they are, leave spiritual debris, particularly within people who do not practice any type of cleansing, physical, emotional or otherwise. The more you interact intimately with someone, the deeper the connection and the more of their aura is intertwined with yours. Imagine the confused aura of someone who sleeps with multiple people and carries around these multiple energies? What they may not realize is that others can feel that energy which can repel positive energy and attract negative energy into your life.I always say, never sleep with someone you wouldn’t want to be. -Lisa Chase Patterson

We don’t mean practice celibacy or wait until you find “the one” or anything like that. Just be mindful of who you share your valuable energies with.”

For the vast majority of swingers, the notion that sleeping with multiple people carries any kind of negative energy is, well, cray-cray. I mean, true swingers view recreational sex as just that; recreational. It’s just for fun. No drama. No emotion (other than healthy and reciprocal lust). No strings attached.
Or is it?
Some of my personal experiences with swinging have been full of negative emotion. I have “taken one for the team” a couple of times, because I thought Rick wanted to have sex with the man’s wife. When in reality, Rick was taking one for the team because he thought I wanted to bang the husband. It was only afterward we realized that we weren’t communicating well enough to discern if said couple was worth playing with. Fortunately this was early in our swinging days, and we’ve learned from experience.
Afterward, I learned that if you dwell too much on the negative energy from those experiences, they will affect your confidence, your self-esteem, and cause you to question your own judgment. All of which offers up plenty of bad aura.
But on the other hand, with the proper pre-screening (meaning having a bit of conversation without a lot of alcohol involved), recreational sex can add a new dimension to a marriage or monogamous relationship by allowing partners to safely explore fantasies and a deeper communication about their desires. Those sound pretty positive to me.
What do you think?

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  1. #1 by larryarcher on June 1, 2014 - 5:08 pm

    We have all had to do a “charity fuck” on occasion but I’d suggest that you discuss this with your partner and possibly come up with a signal that tells the other half that you’re not interested. One of the reasons that I recommend house parties or larger groups is so that you can beg off if your partner is interested in someone that you’re not into the other half.

    I did a blog post on “pimping out your partner” a while back on this where typically guys will have their wife hit on the guy so they can get his wife.

    As far as the spiritual post you referenced, I guess it depends on whether you are into that or not. Personally I don’t put much stock into it but some people are more into it than others.

    • #2 by shalynne on June 2, 2014 - 7:23 pm

      Larry – thanks for your comment! I agree with the idea about the signal for the other partner; we eventually learned that little trick after the charity fuck incidents. Won’t happen again, believe me!

      • #3 by larryarcher on June 2, 2014 - 7:44 pm

        Well as a guy, I usually let my little buddy do all my thinking for me. He doesn’t always make the best decisions but I am learning to strangle him every once in awhile.

  2. #4 by Mixxxer on June 4, 2014 - 2:29 pm

    Its really “sexy” if you have the consent of your partner. And there methods to make them say yes.

    • #5 by shalynne on June 5, 2014 - 2:14 am

      Yes it’s always best to have consent. I’m interested in your “methods”…

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