Pussy-Sucking Skills – How Are Yours?

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For women who swing, a man who knows how to eat pussy well is a gem to behold. I’ve read lot of couples’ profiles that tout the pussy-eating prowess of the man, only to discover that the guy’s idea of cunnilingus is licking a few times, followed by a couple of quick kisses and that’s it.

But if you really want to please a woman, gentleman, you’ll need to take your time and go slow. If you want her to brag to all her other swinger friends (and you know you do), then read this excerpt from “Slow Sex: The Art and Craft of the Female Orgasm,” by Nicole Daedone, the founder of Orgasmic Meditation (OM). She wrote a full chapter of pussy-sucking. Remember, guys, we females want sex that feels connected, even if it’s really not. Just because female swingers participate in recreational sex with complete strangers, we want it to feel amazing. So here are a few tips to ponder. While you read, I’m going to imagine some slow sex with Hugh Jackman as I watch “Real Steel” on TV. When not playing Wolverine, he grows the most perfect facial hair of any man I’ve seen. Oh, what that would feel like on my pussy…but I digress.

Remember…GO SLOW. Slower than you could ever imagine. Slow so you can feel her, smell her, taste her every cell. 

Help your woman take her clothes off. Go slowly. Linger. Show care with every button, every hook, every zipper. Lay her down on the bed and begin with her feet.

Press your thumbs into her arches until you feel her let go and relax. Ask her to communicate sensations to you. Ask her to tell you what it feels like in her body. Keep drawing out her sensation until you feel that she is truly ready to begin.

Treat her whole body as a sex organ and put as much attention on her neck, her chest, her nipples, her stomach. Don’t just go straight for her pussy. Spend some time teasing and coaxing her body to open and surrender to your touch and confidence.

Firmly and gently place a hand on each knee and press her legs open. Feel the heat increase between you. If she moves, tell her to be still.

With one soft finger, gently skim along her inner labia. Add lubrication if that would feel good. Feel how soft her labia are, like tissue paper. Feel how, when you stroke very lightly, you can almost feel the ridges of your own fingerprints.

Bring your finger to rest just below her clit but without touching it. Ask her to tell you a secret. Tell her you won’t budge your finger until she tells you something confidential. As she starts talking slowly move your finger closer to her clit getting as close as you can without actually reaching it.

Draw out her desire with soft kisses, firm intention, and gentle pressure on her inner thighs. Ask her to tell you how her pussy feels. Tell her a sensation in exchange, be specific.

Lick the outer rim of her labia on both sides. Lick just enough to feel the blood pumping in your lips. Then slowly, starting at her introitus (the opening of her vagina), draw your tongue up the centerline of her pussy.

After a few gentle strokes take the whole of her clit into your mouth. Draw it in. Move your tongue along the bottom ridge of her clit, where the inner labia begin to separate. Up and down in the ridge, as gently as you can. Pause and feel how her clit extends itself father into your mouth.

Now take the whole of your mouth and engulf her clit. Move the soft inside of your lips around her hood while keeping the center of your lips wrapped around her clit. Make your mouth big and soft. Try pulling back and exhaling heat onto her clit before diving in and sucking some more.

Curve your tongue and insert it into the pocket that forms under her hood, just above her clit. There is a spot somewhere along the top ridge of the clit where you can feel a slight electrical current, like when you rub your tongue over a copper wire. Keep moving your tongue over that spot.

Fuck her there, digging deeply as if you were burrowing inside her. The more attention you give the more the spot expands until its pulsing under your tongue. Once it’s pulsing you know she’s open. Wrap your mouth around the whole of her hood as you move your tongue around this spot, just above the clit.

While you are sucking her, take two fingers and slide them inside of her reaching up to the spot that would be the back of her clit. Rest your fingers there. Don’t move, just press very gently. Notice how the pressure pushes her clit from behind, how it pops forward into your mouth. Suck it as if you were sucking all the juices out of it. Feel the flow all the way down to your cock.

Begin to move your tongue in a slow rhythm that she can catch on to. If it starts to feel tight or tense, pull back and breath. Exhale. Ask her if she desires a climax, if she wants you to suck her until she comes. If she says yes, tell her you will be drawing her over rather than pressing her over. Gently ask her to communicate if she would like you to move faster or apply more pressure.

Continue to push her clit slightly from behind, while sucking and moving your tongue over her. You do not need to add speed or pressure unless she asks for it. Keep sucking, but pull your tongue back on top of her clit so she can lock into you. You can create a beautiful arc where you hold her in total stillness as she comes.

Once you’ve gotten her to a place of intense sensation, don’t move. Hold there as long as possible so she can absorb all the pleasure that’s available.

If, or as she goes over stay present and connected, do not try to make anything happen.

Simply magnetize her orgasm towards you. As you release the sucking, feel her body go into familiar contractions. The longer you stay in the stillness the more powerful the contractions will be.

As the contractions slow, move back slowly so that you can apply pressure anywhere on her body. Heavy pressure feels very good and grounding after she’s climax. Put pressure on her thighs, her legs, her chest. When you feel her relax, stretch out and lie on top of her until you can feel every part of her body exhale.

Men, if you can pull this off, even in a swinger’s club, you and your woman will have more women chasing you both than you can count. Go on now, it’s time to practice, practice, PRACTICE!

And ladies, here’s something for you:sexy hugh jackman

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  1. #1 by larryarcher on March 26, 2014 - 2:22 am

    Great job, really good description of how to lick pussy. Hopefully none of the other guys I know will read this so I can keep my advantage. 🙂 You even made my tongue hard!

    • #2 by shalynne on March 26, 2014 - 2:36 am

      A hard man is good to find! Thanks for reading. 🙂

  2. #3 by larryarcher on March 26, 2014 - 2:24 am

    Forgot to add that with a few more lessons, maybe I’ll be as good as my wife!

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