Believe it or not, yes, there are other things to do. Lots of other things. Rick and I have kinda sorta taken a break from swinging, although not entirely by choice. As many of you who read this blog already know, Rick works out of town, about four hours away, and comes home on weekends. Being apart five nights a week can wreak havoc on a marriage, no matter how solid it was prior to the separation. We have come to recognize the importance of reconnecting on the weekends, although we still attend the occasional events at swing clubs and house parties. Along the way we’ve met some couples who we’d like to play with, but it’s been hard to find mutually convenient times and places to hook up when your schedule is so limited.
That’s not to say, though, that I’ve been sitting at home twiddling my thumbs. I’m pursuing my burlesque obsession – and my first performance is on the calendar (April 26, in case you’re interested). I’m making new friends along the way and learning a lot.
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I’m also reading (or more accurately, listening to) a new book called “Opening Up” by Tristan Taormino. It’s written for folks interested in polyamory, which Rick and I have talked about, but I’ve learned far more about relationships in general than just polyamory. It covers every aspect of non-monogamy including negotiations, clarifying needs and determining what you truly want in a relationship. I highly recommend it . Taormino also has a blog called “Opening Up” that appears to be an uber-comprehensive resource for non-monogamous relationships.
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Another new interest I’ve discovered is tantra. Maybe because I’ve taken up hot yoga. Whatever the reason, I find it fascinating. In my research I came across a website called My Tiny Secrets, which has some great articles on Yoni massage, how to properly go down on a woman (the video is hilarious yet so TRUE – but NSFW!) among others.
This is my 100th post. Indiscretions is almost a year old. When I started writing this blog, I never imagined it would last this long. It’s still a work in progress and I look forward to expanding my writing to include other articles and maybe even a book or two.
But back to swinging – Rick and I are looking forward to a big party at a swingers’ club this weekend. We have several friends also attending, and I think we’ll both have a great time. But during this temporary “downturn” in swinging activity, I am devoting my time to learning new things – including how to twirl my tassels.
Readers, what sort of “alternative” relationships are you interested (or participating) in? What are the pros and cons?