Swinger Q & A – Inquiring Minds Want to Know

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Hi readers – just wanted to say “thanks” for reading and following tales of my “indiscretions”. Rick and I have been having some fun lately, as I’ve documented here. I want to ratchet up my blog’s design and readability, so you can expect some changes in the look and navigation of this site over the next few weeks. I’d love to hear your feedback.

As the subject of swinging came up with select few new acquaintances, we’ve been asked a lot of questions about the lifestyle, as you can imagine. I thought I’d take the opportunity to publicly answer a few of them here:

  1. How did you get into swinging, and why do you do it?

Rick and I have always been pretty open with each other, about all subjects, almost immediately from the time we met. We’d talk about sex like most couples, and when we discussed fantasies, bucket lists and such, swinging came up. I’ll let Rick tell you the rest, here in this post.

We play with other couples because a) it allows us to experience other people in an open and honest way, and b) it’s sexy and fun to see each other interacting in such an intimate way with other people.

But we don’t spend every weekend having sex with other people. In fact, when you consider how hard it can be to work in a date around four (or more) work schedules, kid commitments and travel plans, it’s amazing that any sex happens at all.

2.  How does swinging bring a couple closer together?

When we play with another couple, or another woman, obviously we’re going to see each other being intimate with someone else. I think it’s sexy to watch Rick play with other women (for a while, at least). For me, it’s kind of an out-of-body experience and it’s interesting to contemplate what he would be like if I wasn’t around. I know that sounds totally weird, but that’s me.

Rick will watch me with another person, for a time, but ultimately needs to be involved at some point. Which is fine. For us, part of the swing lifestyle is about making sure each partner getting to indulge fantasies from time to time. In order for that to happen, there has to be a lot of honest, open and frank discussion, and that’s how a relationship becomes closer.

3.  Do you ever get jealous?

Rick says he doesn’t get jealous, but I must admit, every now and then I meet up with the green-eyed monster. I’ve noticed it creeps up when I’m not feeling too good about myself, because I’ve had a bad day at work, or I didn’t wear my favorite dress, or my roots are showing, or something equally trivial and goofy.

4.  How do you meet other swingers?

We’re on a few websites, and sometimes we’ll just go to clubs or house parties and meet people there.

5.  Don’t you get tired of casual sex?

Who gets tired of sex??? Seriously though, I think I’d get tired of casual sex if I weren’t married to Rick. Having these experiences with him is what makes it so much fun.

6.  Do you ever get emotionally attached to someone you’ve played with?

I have not, and Rick says he hasn’t either. There are couples and people we’ve enjoyed playing with more than others, and at times we like to “go back to the well,” so to speak. But that has more to do with how well our personalities blend together, the playmate’s sexual technique, if they’re well-endowed, or ideally, a combination of all three!

7. Why do you like to write about your sexual experiences?

Who else am I going to tell??? It’s not like I can just chat about it while standing around the water cooler with my coworkers, or tell my family about it during Sunday dinners. This is my outlet to share our experiences with others (albeit somewhat anonymously). I appreciate every single one of this blog’s followers more than I can say. My blog and it’s followers challenge me to stretch my thinking and writing skills, which stimulates the other parts of my brain that swinging just can’t quite reach. 🙂 Thank you, all.

 

Do you have any questions that I haven’t addressed in this post, or other posts? Feel free to ask away!

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  1. #1 by mala on September 28, 2013 - 11:30 am

    Fascinating… I’m way too jealous by nature… but glad you enjoy it!

    • #2 by shalynne on September 28, 2013 - 5:18 pm

      Thanks for your comment – I’m not entirely past the jealousy thing, but I am learning to manage it. Thanks for reading!

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